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Tuesday, June 05, 2007


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If I may: Your reaction isn't about change and it isn't a blanket judgment on people who don't live an experimental, envelope-pushing lifestyle in their 40s. Rather: the two examples you cite are stories about people of great potential and talent who (from your perspective, in this moment) appear to be settling for outcomes that are below the expectations you formed about them as a young man.

If we're lucky enough to grow up, we find ourselves in the position of worrying about mundane things. And personally, I love the fact that I've been shaped and rounded by the difficulties and routines of life, rather like a gemstone polished by decades in rock tumbler.

The question is: What do we DO with all that experience? That ability to recognize patterns and nuance (a point Janet raised over morning coffee yesterday)?

I see our 40s and 50s as prime time, but I understand (to a degree) why our culture glorifies people in their twenties: Every experience is new to the young, and so life is dynamic and exciting. That doesn't have to end, but looking around at people our age, it's pretty obvious that for most of them, it ended. They're not trying new things. They've got their routines, their life-compromising bargains, their set-in-their-ways attitudes about politics and life and God, and they're in it for the long haul now. The main thing they want: No more surprises.

In my mid-thirties I realized that life for me was speeding up, far more interesting and exciting than it had ever been before. And yet for so many of my peers, things seemed to be slowing down. So I think part of what you're responding to is the sense that paths diverge in middle life, and people make choices that define the balance of their days.

To borrow a probably inappropriate conflict metaphor: Are you in the fight or out of it?


it can suck to be stuck in someone's past, eternally cast as more interesting, with more potential, as more novel in their memory than in they're willing to allow now. it's nice to be seen and heard in real time. i may be tender about some of those past parts, but i'm not sorry that my perceptions & opinions evolve. cheers to buddha, to warrior one & market share.

Dan Holway

Do you think that Peter Searcy is capable of singing today the way that he sang with Squirrel Bait?


for what it's worth, i found a download of Searcy doing Sun God on Sony Connect's live set. it was recorded earlier this year. it's pretty awesome. http://musicstore.connect.com/custom/promos/exclusives/exclusives_landingpage.html?checkBos=false


Sun God on You Tube -


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